Does Size Really Matter?

The age old question many of us ponder about. Does my size determine how fashion forward I can be? The answer is ABSOLUTELY not! How great you look in your clothes isn't necessarily attached to your size. It is however attached to your body shape.  

I remember shopping with friends many many years ago pre baby and before I became an image consultant, I was a size 4. All of my friends would make statements like, "you can wear anything you want." or "I'm sure you never have a problem finding clothes." How differently they saw things when I was the one looking for clothes and they saw my dilemma. I was very blessed up top, had a tiny waist, and had very modest hips. Not the easiest body to dress. I received many apologies by the end of our shopping excursion. Thinking about it now makes me laugh. 

When shopping, first, accept that you are wonderfully made. We are the first to criticize our bodies, instead of embracing how we were created. The media doesn't help, as they are very bias to what they feel beauty looks like. The next step is finding balance. This can be done with both color, and how clothing is cut. Here's an example. If you're more blessed on top, than the bottom, you can balance your look two ways. You can eitherwear a lighter colored bottom than your top, or wear a wider cut on bottom. This also works in the reverse.

Because we are all uniquely made, there of course are other variables to consider. But once you first accept you, and find your balance, shopping becomes much easier and more of a delight.

Tomboy

Most of my life, I considered myself a tomboy. I was the girl who was just "one of the guys." As a teenager I wore baggy clothes and hung out with the fellas. We laughed, joked, and generally had a great time. Even in early adulthood, I was still in tomboy mode. A lot of that changed when I began to date and enter into serious relationships. Even after marrying, my husband revealed to me, most guys who hang out with girls have a general interest, but may not always make a move. This blew my mind, because I just loved hanging out with the fellas. I have found however, that after marrying, those relationships became distant, and I saw there was truth to what my husband was saying. "The fellas" didn't keep in touch as much as before. 

Looking back, I began to visit the question, why was I more comfortable around guys? What was revealed to me was life changing. I realized that all the images I had of other women were very negative. I realized I didn't want to be associated with what I had both heard and experienced with other women. This was very sad. For so many years, I didn't allow myself to get in touch with who I really am, my femininity, or even celebrate who God had made me, because of how viewed womanhood. 

Once I began to allow God to heal my mindset and the hurt I had experienced, I began to embrace who I am more and more. I am ALL WOMAN and proud of it!  I stopped hiding in my baggy clothes and allowed my curves to be modestly presented. I'm emotional sometimes, I cry, and that's okay. I learned, emotions are not bad, we just have to be mindful in how we respond to them. I even began to develop very close relationships with other wonderful women who are like my sisters. I don't know how I did life without them.

I still however, have one of my favorite pair of cargo capris. I now only wear them around the house, mainly because they have many holes, and my husband has joked of replacing them when I'm unaware. That's the last part of a chapter that I'm ready to close. Perhaps I'll have them made into a quilt, so I'll always have a reminder of the transformation God has made in my heart. I absolutely love the evolution my wardrobe has made over the years. I think I look awesome in my clothes. I love how soft, and beautiful, and feminine I feel in them, because now, I feel beautiful in my own skin being a woman.

So, I challenge every woman out there who have considered themselves to be a tomboy. Ask the question, why? The answer may be shocking to you. I'm not necessarily saying that being a tomboy is bad. I'm just sharing my story, in hopes that if we share any of the same feelings in this regard, I want you to know, there's more freedom that lies ahead when you embrace who you truly are. 

Why Hire a Personal Stylist?

How many times have you gone shopping and returned home frustrated, empty handed, or with bags full of returns? Many of us have, you are not alone. The majority of us are challenged in finding clothes that work well with our personal style. Many times, we're just not sure what that style is. Prior to studying fashion, and becoming a personal stylist, I had these same challenges. I had a menagerie of so many different types of clothes, and always felt not quite myself after getting dressed. Here's how a personal stylist can help.

We generally start by identifying three key factors in our sessions. First, we identify what colors work best with your natural skin tone and hair color. This is major! Color makes a huge difference in how your makeup and clothes reflect off your skin. I found, the color orange does not work well with my complexion. It gives me a washed out look. The only way I was able to wear it, was by putting on a ton of makeup on to add color back to my face. I didn't have time to do that each time I wore it. Because I love orange so much, I decided it was best to incorporate the color in my home decor, and leave it out of my closet! Second, we identify your body shape. Have you ever gone shopping with a friend and you're both the same size, but the outfit didn't quite look the same on you? I have a rule for this. Just because it's made in our size, doesn't mean it's the best fit. Your body shape determines how the clothes contour to your physique. And third, a hair analysis. This we do to help you identify what hairstyle works best with your personal style and that can be easily recreated to complete your polished, authentic look.

With all the detail in determining your personal look, and so many stores to shop, it's no wonder why shopping can feel like a hit and miss. So, why hire a personal stylist? We can help you navigate through all the detail, and give you an outline that will make shopping fun and easy. My goal is to help you see that awesome image you have dreamed about become a reality!